If your relationship is going through a rough patch, you might be tempted to turn to astrologers to see what they predict for your future. Many people do.
Yet, you are probably better off trying to predict your own future. Here are some indicators that can help you see whether your marriage is nearing its end:
1. Do you argue?
Contrary to what you might think, arguing can be a positive sign. It could indicate that you both still care.
If you have argued for a long time, then your spouse stops engaging, it could signal they have decided there is no longer any point because the relationship is beyond saving.
2. Do you still spend time together?
Spending time apart is healthy for a relationship. Yet, if you find yourself spending almost all your time apart, then consider if it’s because you no longer want to spend time together. If you or your spouse always have something more important to do, that’s a bad sign – especially if those reasons are flimsy.
3. Are you happy to hurt each other?
If you go for the jugular, choosing the very words that you know will most hurt your spouse, then consider there is a problem. Equally, if they intentionally do things they know will hurt you, such as “forgetting” you needed to take the car because you have an exam, it’s a bad sign. While most couples will hurt each other occasionally, callousness is a very bad sign.
If you believe divorce could be on the cards, seek legal help to understand how that might play out.